Japanese Male-Western Female
It doesnft seem to work.
I have touched on male chauvinism and unfortunately it does exist here even though there are signs of it starting to fade away. In Western society we are brought up believing that we are as good as our deeds. That is people are judged by their efforts in the workplace, their personality and consideration to others among other things. Here your position in society is pretty much determined at birth; depending on factors like who your parents are, your sex, and the order of your birth. I know it sounds ridiculous but itfs true. Hence Japanese men rank eabovef their female peers. This is really hard to swallow for Western women who are strong and have a mind of their own.
In these changing times Japanese women are also influenced by our western ways. A growing number of women are choosing not to give up their financial independence to become glorified housewives. On a personal note many of my Japanese friends are in their thirties and single. The usual pattern is to go to a university or technical college, work a few years (if that) then the husband searching begins. Some young womenfs dream is to become an oyomisan which literally means somebodyfs wife. Pressure is put on women nearing their thirties to get married because after the age of 30 even arranged marriage proposals are limited.
So the Japanese male, Western female combination is very tricky. I know a number of foreign women in the same position I am in, divorced and bringing up children alone. For those couples that have made it work 100 points for the efforts and compromises you have made to each other.
